This is an easy topic for me to write about. The challenge will come in finding new things to say. I talk about Vince and our relationship quite a bit. He's my favorite person in the whole world and I like to gush about him. So my challenge is to come up with a unique blog about our relationship.
Vince and I met online in 1997, before meeting people online was the thing to do. We both went to the same chat program and met through a mutual online friend. She told me that she knew a guy who was a great poet and she thought I would like his poetry. So that was how our conversation started. For a long time, we talked a little here and there, but nothing too deep or meaningful. I wish I could tell you the moment that things changed, but I don't know that there was one specific moment. It was a whole bunch of conversations, a million small things, and a friendship that grew into more than I had ever imagined it would become.
For the first six and a half years we were together, our relationship was long distance. He was living in California and I was living in Connecticut and then Kansas. We spent hours on the phone talking about anything and everything. We really credit that with the strength of our relationship because we talked about everything and there was nothing off limits. We know everything about each other. We shared stories from our childhoods. We talked about our families and friends. We talked about our past relationships and the baggage we carried with us because of them. We talked about our hopes and dreams and started developing dreams together. We talked about our future and made plans for what our life would be like when we were together.
For the first several months we were physically in the same place, I didn't want to let go of him for a minute. It seemed like a dream come true. I was so happy that I didn't know how it could possibly be real. He was here with me and we were together every day. He wasn't going to have to leave me in a week. He was really staying with me and we were together. I know we were both worried about living together and whether it was going to be as great as we hoped and planned for it to be. It was even better than we had thought it would be. We moved from being a couple living separately to a couple living happily together without any problems. It was so smooth and I didn't think it could possibly happen that easily.
Then we moved to being engaged. I almost managed to blow the proposal by having the worst week ever, but Vince was persistent and I said yes, of course. :) For those of you who know me well, you will not be surprised to know that I moved instantly into planner mode. For those of you who know Vince well, you will not be surprised to know that he had no problem with me being the planner and let me go at it. I became a little obsessed with the wedding planning and Vince tried to keep me from going overboard...or at least from sharing all of my obsessed thoughts with him. We managed to get through it all and still wanted to be married to each other, even if I obsessed over cute Hershey's miniatures wrappers and color coordinated M&Ms. Our wedding day was wonderful and beautiful and still stands as the happiest day of my life. Our reception was so much fun. It was a great party and a stupendous way to celebrate with friends, family, and champagne!
Our life since then has continued to be amazing. We've been through so much together: the loss of loved ones, the purchase of a house, a summer of trying to get pregnant and all the issues and hormones that went with that, traveling together instead of away from each other, home repairs, buying a new vehicle, and so many more little things that make up our lives together.
I can't imagine my life without Vince. He is truly the perfect man for me and while our relationship wouldn't work for everyone, it is exactly what we want and need. I couldn't be happier and look forward to seeing where we go from here and know I will have fun as long as he is with me.
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